Often when we feel bad about ourselves, we act out in ways that are destructive to ourselves and the people we love. How can we learn to accept ourselves the way we are, and move through life with peace?
Finding one’s self-value is a challenging but critical step towards finding a healthier, happier way of existence.
Here are a few ways you can start to realize your own self-worth, and start getting your life back on track.
Do Esteemable Acts
If you want to gain self-esteem, do esteemable acts.
This advice is often given to people in recovery from substance abuse or alcoholism who feel like their lives have zero value. They wonder, what on earth can I do that is esteemable?
The answer is to reach out and help someone else. Even someone who is at the bottom of the proverbial barrel can help someone else, who might be there too.
Hold a door open for someone. Help a senior carry their groceries. Watch the baby so your spouse can take a nap. These small acts of kindness can help you realize that your acts can help others and that you have value.
Eliminate Toxic Relationships
Another reason we start to believe that we are not worth anything is when we are in a relationship where someone tells us so.
Often others make us feel bad about ourselves when they themselves suffer from low self-esteem. They make themselves feel more powerful by putting you down. Sometimes these unhealthy relationships can grow dangerous.
By mending the relationships where you feel like you have no value, you can start to see yourself as you really are, not as how others see you through their own prism of dysfunction.
Take Care of Yourself
Start exercising your body and eating healthy food. You will be surprised how much better you start to feel about yourself when you maintain your physical body. Mental health and physical health go hand in hand.
By cutting out processed foods and getting oxygen flowing through your blood, you can start adopting healthier habits. As your body starts to heal, your self-esteem will improve as well.
Find What Brings You Joy
Do you like dogs? Get one! Do flowers make you feel good? Start a garden!
It doesn’t matter whether anyone else has the same interests or passions that you do. If you have fun reading about medieval history or whittling wood, go for it.
Face Your Fears
Fear holds many of us back from trying things, from asking someone out on a date to applying to college.
When you face your fears, you start to realize your inner strength. Even if you don’t always get what you want, you will see that you tried, and you survived. You can now get up and try again.
Self-Value: You Are Worth It
Every single one of us has value in this world if we know how to find it. If you are struggling to find your own self-value, ask for help. There are resources available to help you find it and nurture it.
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