According to the National Bullying Prevention Center, just over 20% of kids get bullied at school. While many parents worry about their child getting picked on, a smaller percentage of them fear that they actually raised the bully.
Do you suspect that your child is a bully? If so, you need to learn the warning signs and how to stop that behavior.
A bully refers to a person who habitually seeks to intimidate, overpower, or harm others. They often pray on people they perceive as vulnerable.
What clear signs can you look for to see if your child is a bully?
Many bullies overcompensate for their lack of self-esteem with arrogance. Do not mistake this with children who show healthy pride in their accomplishments or brag a little when excited.
Arrogance looks like an inflated sense of self-importance during every situation. They exaggerate achievements and even lie when they fail. They outwardly look down on others as a way to boost themselves up.
Bullies crave control. Unlike with leaders, if it is not freely given, then they will gain it by intimidation or force. A manipulative child bully will even take control with adults, like their teachers and even you.
- No Accountability
Young children will often pass blame for fear of consequences, but a bully will never take accountability for their actions. If your child blames others for everything that happens, this should raise a red flag.
- Lack of Empathy
Empathy allows us to relate to the feelings of others. Bullies often lack remorse for the pain that they inflict on others. If your child seems apathetic when others get hurt or cry, then they need help
How to Stop Child Bullying
While the thought of your child becoming a bully might seem horrifying, they are still your child. You love them, and they need professional help.
Waiting for a therapist to work through it with them might make you feel helpless. So, after you set that up, take measures to help from home.
Watch them closely and inform their teachers about their behavior. If they do not get a chance to harm others in private, then they may not carry out that behavior.
Talk with them. Ask your child why they do it. Allow them to feel heard without judgment and ask how you might help them.
You might find that they also get bullied and take control in the only way they know how. You might also learn about something that bothers them at home that you overlooked. You may also find that they suffer from a mental health disorder.
Seek Help if Your Child is a Bully
If your child is a bully, do not try to hide the situation. Every family struggles with something and it should not cause you to feel shame.
Asking for help in finding a solution shows character and bravery. It is often the only way to bring out the best in your child when they are deeply suffering.
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